So......
I've put off blogging for quite some time for a couple of reasons.
1. We've been BUSY! I made a trip to Minot back in October to for the birth of my very good friend's baby. I came home in early November, and we began reving up for the holidays. They came and went very quickly, in all their wonderfullness, and we've been trying to catch our breath ever since. William is at the Academy, I'm working hard at developing a cirriculum of sorts for Wyatt, we're still working on about 10 projects with the house, and we're slowly working towards an adoption! Whew! Like I said... We've been BUSY!
2. A lot of what is happening in our life right now is somewhat personal, generally emotionally charged, and somewhat controversial. I needed some time to find my footing on several issues before I started sharing and announcing to the rest of the world... but I think I'm about there! So, at the top of our current undertakings list right now are the issues of preschool and adoption.
Preschool:
I am keeping Wyatt home rather than sending him to preschool. This decision has been met with raised eyebrows on many occasions (and at times, those eyebrows were my own). However, I am sure of my decision for several reasons. First and foremost, I am his mother, and I am not only capable of but also responsible for what this beautiful little boy learns, whether at home or in a classroom. Teaching him at home puts me fully in charge of what he is taught and what he is exposed to. And though I firmly believe all mothers have the potential to teach their own young children, having my degree in child development doesn't hurt either.
Second, it would be ridiculously idiotic of me to pay someone else to teach my child when a) we'd probably have to skip a meal each day to afford it, and b) THIS IS WHAT MY DEGREE IS FOR!
Third, I believe in childhood. I believe our children grow up much too fast in this society, and that the demands we put on them at such an early age is detrimental to them. I intend to provide Wyatt with as much education as is beneficial to him and that we can fit INTO his childhood, rather than replacing it.
I didn't think this would be such a difficult issue, but I have met a lot of disapproval, which caused me to question my own judgement. In the end I feel confident about my decision... good thing, 'cause I'm sure I'll get a LOT more of those raised eyebrows if I decide not to send Wyatt to Kindergarten! ("What?!" you say. YUP, you heard me)
Adoption:
We have decided to begin the adoption process. It has taken quite some time to reach this place where we find ourselves. Our original plans were vastly different from the route we now plan to take, and it has been an emotional journey. At this point, we plan to adopt waiting children, most likely Wyatt's age or younger. We would prefer a sibling group, which will probably be just 2 since we cannot use our downstairs rooms until egress windows are put in ($$), and they have square footage requirements for how many children can share a room. Because they will share a room with Wyatt, we will only be approved to adopt boys. While we do not feel that we currently have the resources to parent a child that would be totally dependant upon us for life, we do not have any other "limits" for the type of child we will be willing to accept. We will look at each case presented as an option, and we have faith that we will know we when find our
child(ren). This part is a little scary if I focus too much on it. We are starting on a path that may lead us in directions we have very little experience with and that will definitely differ from the "perfect" picture we had formed when we started our life together. But, we have already had the opportunity to have our minds opened to new possibilities and different types of life experiences, and we are excited to see what is in store for us!
So, there you have it! In all my bravery, I've let you in on our off-the-beaten-path decisions!
